Here’s to life

Here’s to life and dreamers and their dreams.

funny how the time just flies

how love can go from warm hellos to sad to goodbyes

Such a poignant song. Life is so short, yet so many are wandering around thinking they have forever. They put off happiness for the future that may or may not come to pass. Crazy to think of all of the time wasted. How much time do you waste every day?

Life doesn’t give us a start and end date. Yes many of us will live until we’re old but not all of us. And the quality of life reduces as the years pass for the vast majority. How do I meet men over 40 who really feel there is no need for a relationship, as it’s something they are putting off till…. till when?

So much preoccupation with the future, a distant future at that. Why not live for today? Tomorrow? The actual present moment that is real and here right now? It’s a methodology of thinking that has been around for ages, yet is still seen as a fringe hippy, outlier belief system. Social media has made the issue worse and so many men are stuck in a peter pan like mentality. More authenticity is needed in the world. More present moment thinking and belief systems need to be improved before the world implodes. Moral bankruptcy is an epidemic. Hopeless romantics like myself are an endangered species.

So let’s raise a glass, to life, to love, to the present moment as it’s all we have.

Wish List *updated*

Every little help still and is super appreciated. So here it is:

My amazon wish list can be found on

Waitrose e-gift cards can be sent to my email, sexandtheswiss @

Cycling gear!

**Strava membership **

Or you can do a little extra

British airway or Swiss vouchers to help with the flying back and forth to see my daughter.

And there is always paypal as well

The 80s – Top 10 hits

Tonight a friend told me she had read the whole blog, she loved it, then asked me….

“Aren’t you done yet?”

“HA! You don’t know who I am? I haven’t even started yet, pull up a chair, and enjoy the show”, I responded with a grin and a giggle.

“Don’t worry, we’re watching and enjoying the show” she replied.

Quite a few people log on here every day, so I must be entertaining. Hopefully, they will all migrate to the new blog when I finally finish it. We’ll see how long that takes, you know I’m renowned for my laziness. No one to whip me into action either *sigh*.

At least I did my blog all on my own, instead of like Mr. monkey cheating and going through the WordPress site. Oh, shit does that sound a tad bitchy? Sorry, not sorry.

Today when I was bored I somehow got the idea to look up 80’s music and ended up doing an 80s music marathon today on youtube. The random thought popped into my head (a dangerous place that)  most of the guys I’ve dated in recent times missed the 80s completely. They totally missed it. And there was some good music too! I suppose it’s ok, they are cute at least. (well depending on who you ask of course)

So here it is, my top 10 favs. All from the 80s before most of the guys I’ve been shagging were born. By the way, dancing to loud music at 3 am on a Monday is normal here in Switzerland? (well I guess officially it’s Tuesday now, and by now 4 am) 🙂

Just about anything by Depeche Mode still is awesome, although my son says their songs make someone want to kill themselves. Bad taste in music he has. I also wrote an epic piece that holds the same title.

Sting, is another one who can’t make a bad song. Fucking awesome, and British like moi 🙂 And it’s a song everyone loves but doesn’t even understand what it’s about, got to love the uneducated.

In case you need to wake up now, fast paced and awesome, yeah it’s called Maniac, no jokes, cheers.

The puns that could be made from this inclusion…..

Another one bites the dust….. “How do you think I’m going to get along without you when you’re gone?”

“But dreaming’s all I do if only they’d come true”,  I should be so lucky, yes not the 80’s version. This one is better. And  I know the song well, it’s ingrained into my brain. Trust me after being called Kylie for years I know most of her songs and no I’m not so lucky in love either, and also like tall guys.

Could it be the 80’s without this song??? We built this city, although the video confuses me it looks like NYC then the radio bit is “the city by the bay” San Francisco for those of you that don’t know what the city by the bay is. *sigh*

Hold me now…. look at our life now, tattered and torn…. yep you got it babe.

This one is on my fav playlist actually, Bizarre love triangle, life is stranger than fiction sometimes.

and last but not least, 1989 and still not yet born…….

Love song and this is actually mentioned in the upcoming book, a different guy is involved and bubbles are included….. intrigued?

I left off the mushy songs, or songs from musicals, ( I know the words to most of them, not really a CV-worthy skill though, neither are epic BJ’s but they are skills even if Linkedin doesn’t agree!)